Happy Asian family using tablet, laptop for playing game watching movies, relaxing at home for lifestyle concept

This Version Posted: March 29, 2020

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Lisa van der Vinne
HKPR District Health Unit

Being a hockey mom is easy compared to being a pandemic mom.

Getting your son to hockey practice on time, organizing team fundraisers, and arranging hotel stays for out-of-town tournaments is simple compared to skating around the ever-changing COVID-19 situation.  

Activities that used to feel safe, like encouraging children to play outdoors with their friends, now feel risky and ill-advised. With schools closed and kids in limbo, and many parents home from work or self-isolating after a trip overseas, you may have no idea how to fill the extra time you have with your family.

Where to start? First, state the obvious: you feel stressed and anxious – your partner and children likely do too – but that’s normal and OK. 

It’s important to think of this pandemic as a marathon, not a sprint. Build a new routine that is about sustaining your energy and staying mentally and physically healthy for the long term. 

For my family, the pandemic routine means focusing less on getting stuff done and more on fun and self-care. Screen time limits are being adjusted at home, allowing the kids to be happily engaged in video games and letting me do things like reading a book, going for a walk or calling a friend (self-care is just as important to keep YOU fully recharged and operational).

It’s also good to set some goals for things you want to accomplish, educational activities for the kids, or reorganizing the closet. But add activities that help everyone relax and reduce some of the anxiety and stress as well.  

As hockey moms and pandemic moms both know, it’s very easy to put everyone else’s needs before your own. But like flight attendants tell you on airplanes, put on your own oxygen mask first!